Feeling Out of Place?

Feeling, Out of Place, (OP) is a state of feeling not comfortable or suitable for a particular situation, occasion or place.

For example: when you go with your mother to the party, this party is for the age 50 above and you are just 19 years old, you think you can mingle with them, no! But you will feel Out of Place; this party is not suitable for your ages.

In a group, there is a time we feel OP because we didn’t recognize or notice by other member, leader or from the one we're expecting to get an attention, by that, we will feel bad for them and leave the group. 

This emotion also, often resides to the person who is looking for a special attention, which different from the other, also to timid and shy person,  when they didn’t get it, they feel out of place or disregarded. We can’t blame them, everybody has their own characteristic, even our closes friend, we can’t force other to do what we want, it also a fear, fear to neglect. That’s why, we feel bad when we didn’t recognized, we can fight the feeling of out of place by conquering yourself,

 

What must we do, if our friend or other didn’t pay attention to us And we feel Out of Place.

• Don’t feel bad if they didn’t notice you, for example, in facebook or social media you posted but they didn’t give attention to it or comment it, it just fine, post again and mention their name if you really want to get their attention.
• In a group, don’t wait for them to attend you, join in what they are doing and entertain them instead of entertaining you.
• Give them a consideration, think that they are just busy doing their own business. Or maybe they have a problem why they didn’t notice you.
• In gathering don’t think that they can entertain you, you are not the only visitor they have, and you should do the first move, by introducing yourself and mingle with them or simply leave the place without bad feelings.
• Take it from me, in the past NBA Finals, I not a fan of any basketball team but, I joined in my friend cheering for the winning team, I thought, if I will not do this I become Out of Place, so, it must begin to our self. 

There’s no one can solve if we feel out of place but us, it should not come to the point that we break up to our friend or keep a bad feeling to them. Feeling out of place is a selfish act, thinking that you are special so they should entertain you than the other? No, we should consider the feeling of other and be humble.

Think of these quotes;

“You must try to generate happiness within yourself. If you aren't happy in one place, chances are you won't be happy anyplace”.