CYBER-BULLYING

SOMETIMES, we didn't notice we are actually bullies others in the WEB or we are already bullies by others. we hurt other by our post and comments.

On time my niece come to me crying she told me that her friend posted a bad words in the web intended to her. it's a clear cyber bullying. simple but it is.
 
Cyber-bullying is bullying that using electronic technology attached in the web or internet such as cell phones, computers, and tablets as well as communication tools including social media sites, text messages, chat, and website, rumors sent by email or posted on social networking sites, and embarrassing pictures, videos, websites, or fake profiled, harassing the intended person.


Kids who are being cyber-bullied are often bullied in person. kids have a harder time getting away from the behavior. it can happen anytime, any day as long as they are online and he or she is alone.
 
Not only the children has been bullied in the web, also the adult many are women bullied by their ex boyfriend or their friend. other people don't want to joint in social media because they are afraid of bullying, like my friend i ask him to joint in one of the well know social media, but he refuse according to him there is too much bullying on the site i recommend to him, whatever i explain to him, he really refused me. this is one way if you are afraid of cyber bullying choose the site you want to join. you know, a simple not responding to you post that it is clear, that he is online and you post or mention him then he didn't response is a simple form of cyber bullying because the requisite of bullying is there. In law, you can't call a case like rape if there is no penetration, force or intimidation because the element of rape is not there, the same as bullying, the meaning, the element is their, so, it's bullying and it create a little bit hurt to you, by ignoring you, but its not heavy, its bearable for us adult, by doing the same.


Social media sites can be used for positive activities, like connecting with friends and family, helping students with school and for entertainment. But these things or tools can also be used to hurt other people. Whether in person or through technology, the effects are similar. Sometimes cyber-bullying can be easy to know, if your child shows you a text message, tweet, or response to a status update on Social media that is harsh, mean, or cruel. Other acts are less obvious. bad information, photos, or videos designed to hurt or embarrass another person.
 
Sometimes bullier are creating fake account to harass and bully a person or anyone online. The impersonal nature of text messages, one person's joke could be another hurtful insult. it also a cyber bullying, but it can't be use in the court because you can't confirm if the person who text you was really a person who write a text you receive better to do is confront the one who sent a message to know the truth.

Cyber-bullying can affect the social, emotional, and physical health of a child. For these reasons, it is important that parents and guardians take steps to help their child deal with and respond to cyber-bullying.
 
Almost million of people use or engaged in the web, social media, all are prone to cyber bullying, for us adult we can handle it, we know what to do. but the young at age, even a little one engaging in the web, when it happened on my niece i told her to ignore it and delete it, then i confront her friend to stop bullying my niece, if not, i tell it to his parents. like this little one who didn't know what to do, if I'm not there, maybe she will just cry.  


People who are weak are more prone in cyber bullying, like many young age  our children who are eager to play in the web, mostly online game.

What we should do?

• We must guide our children, monitor their activity, sometime they didn't tell us their feelings, they just simply cried or didn't talk until we know that they have been bullied in the web. 
• We should interact with them in the web, in social media let be friend with them, so, we can know their friend and activity, if someone posted a bad thing or word intended to them we can block it immediately. 
• Also tell our child not to respond to rude e-mails, picture, messages, and comments. 
• Instruct our child to “block” bullies or delete our child’s current account and open a new one.
• Save the evidence by taking screenshots of the posted message or picture.
• Contact your Internet service provider (ISP) Ask the website administrator or ISP to remove any Web page created to hurt your child.
• If bullying happened via text from phone, change the phone number and instruct our child to only share the new number with trustworthy people. 
• Also, check out phone features that may allow the number to be blocked.
• Get our child’s school involved in the matter and urge administrators to take a stance against all forms of bullying.

 
Cyber bullying can be a crime under cyber crime law, if someone, let say, your enemy posted a message or picture that cause your life miserableness or any heavy circumstances that affect your life or a simple slander by writing, take a screen shot of the entire post or message then get two witness who saw or read  the message then file it in the court.


For us who is in the right age, lets watch our moves, our post, our message and comments in social media or in cyber world. Web is like a spider, it crawled around the World of Internet, it is good but very delicate, people are watching us in the web. if you feel something illegal has occurred, inform the proper authority or the law enforcement or agency who is specialist in the cyber bullying.

Event: My Buklod Experience.

BUKLOD (Bond Together) is a group composed of a married man and woman in the Church of Christ, it was created on Dec. 15, 1962, celebrated every year, in every country, where there  is a Church of Christ. It is very important event for the member that they can't let the celebration passed without them.

At the place, I was amazed of large number of crowds when we arrived, a brethren with their whole family from other place of the Philippines waiting outside of the Arena,  we line up and stand in the entrance of the Theater Arena for 1 hour before we go in. waiting for the brethren to come out who watched before us.

It was 50th year Anniversary of Buklod, we celebrate it by showing a Musical Play with the title "Gintong Pangarap" (Golden Dreams) the story of christian family of Iglesia Ni Cristo (Church of Christ) play by brethren actors and actress, it was showed two times to accommodate the whole brethren in the city, we go early as two hour before the start because we expect the large number of people who will attend and we thought that there might be no sit at all if we come at exact time,

So it is, a huge of people enter the gate after the first batch came out, with the help of some security all the brethren got in peacefully. 

It was not yet an experience because naturally if you come early you are willing to wait for a long time.

The experience is, the feeling of excitement when everything go on,  I never felt this excitement before, I'm a simple man, i‘m not really minded party person, I'm a shy person, and silent type.

As the excitement goes, my wife are so excited, so i, excited too, even we have no enough budget we buy new dress, shoe etc, for the event. while i‘m looking my wife fitting a shoe, this words playing in my mind, "gosh! i have no allowance for the week", i was hesitate to get the money in my wallet,  me too, when i buy for me, i feel regrets, but we still have to buy it for this a grand anniversary, we really want to joined in the celebration, its for our group and it just once a year.

We are really excited that we come to post our new dress in face book to show to our friend that we have a new dress for the celebration, in that,  we got praise and complement from them, this is our first time so we fully prepared our self. 

At the arena, we sat nearer to the stage, i though it just a simple movie or a theater musical, it make me cry.  it  is a Life of trials, faith, love, affirmation, prayer and success, how the family survive by trusting God. A true christian values and belief,  who truly believed in God. 



The movie started when the couple was didn't not yet know each other, in the year 1962, they meet in a singing contest, a man is fully prepared and is just waiting for the girl because he has already a house in preparation for his married life, a good quality of man to be a husband.  they are both contestant in the contest. in the announcement of the winner all the contestant stand at the stage, the crowd can‘t hold their laughing. Me too! because the man are vividly looking at the girl, looking and looking while Announcing the winner, the girl so shy and blush can't look at him, she just smile, a very cute smile. they're both win in the contest, the man got first and the girl got second place.

As the movie go on. the man courted the girl. In the old day in the Philippine, if the man touched the hand of a woman he courted, the man must marry the woman even nothing happen to them, as in just touching, that was in 1962 but now a day so, liberated. so, it so happen that the man touched the hand of the girl and saw by the mother of the girl, the mother shouted, "hey! you must marry my daughter" they shock. huh!

As the story goes, they got married and have 4 child, sadly, trial come to them when their friend run away their money, that they shared for the business, and also their only money for their livelihood, the husband got anger with a closed fist, he want to sue their friend, but his wife comport him, they sing a prayer, asking God for help. with the 1000 voice choir as a background. The 1000 voice is a thousand choir member from all locale of Church of Christ participate in the event as background. so, touching, crowd/brethren have been silent, heart fully listening to the song, some are crying. me too. The couple didn't take revenge they let it to God, they trust God that they overcome the trial.

All the prayer and agony is in musical. a christian value has highly showed, story of a courtship, how to choose a good husband, that must be from Church of Christ too,  forgiveness, when their younger daughter died, which is blamed it to their son who brought the younger to the outing, the young girl drowned in the river. their son left for abroad with tears blaming himself. how's the mother comport her son who have a child syndrome. their children go on their owned life, the husband and wife left only in the house, but in the end they got all together again, their 3 children with their family, their grandchildren, comeback to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary in surprise, the movie showed how the family survived in all trial in life by trusting God alone. I'm so blessed.


It's end with all the talent, actor actress come out one by one to introduce in the crowd, the crowd, a Buklod member applause and stand, what a overwhelming moment, the children hug their parent, a couple had kissed 
and whispered the word of love to each other.

After the prayer we go home with a great experience happen in my life. if all the family live were the God is the foundation, maybe there‘s no broken home.

Until now while i write this experience of mine, i still felt  the present of God who is Praise and put high in the Celebration.

Freedom

When you say freedom it means you have liberty to live on your own, no bandage or slave to someone or something, no discrimination, free as a bird. democracy.

But some people abuse there freedom, they become disrespect to other, especially to there leader because there leader give them freedom to express there right they use it to demand whatever they want, that's why others become rebellious because of freedom. but if we use our freedom in right manners there‘s no problem,

Religious freedom - this a free will to choose of what you want to believe, free to join in any religion you want.

In some country the people are free to join in any religion. you can also create your own religion not like in other country they have only one religion recognize by the Government

In the bible, God gave us a freedom, a free will to choose but its bound by law. God said; I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse, therefore choose life that you and your offspring may live (Deu.30:19)you have a free will to follow or not but there is a consequences of all you will do.

Lets us follow our leader they come from God if they abused there God given power, the God the one will punish them.

We are free but don't abuse it let's always be bind to our Leader. that's freedom. a peaceful heart.

Worship and Offering

A family is planning a vacation but before anything else the mother ask her husband to check the locale church in the place were they going, the time of worship and the day.

This is the first thing in mind of a member of Church of Christ, worship service, even they are in vacation they are present in the time of worship, they didn't miss the blessing of worshiping.

Wherever we go, we seek first the place of Church of Christ, if there is a Church of Christ in the place,  this is a very important things in the life of us member, its increase our faith, "faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the word of God,"   (Rom 10:17 ) where we hear the words of God, in worship services,  worship God before anything else. its strictly followed by the brethren.

Jesus said; Seek first the kingdom of God and everything shall be added unto you. (Mat 6:33) there is a blessing in worshiping. as Jesus said everything will be added on to you, Even we are sick as long as we can stand and walk going to church, we will go. we are not complete if we fail to attend in worship service. that character of INC member, I admire the most. 

Another thing is the offering, others has been stumble by this money offering, but in INC member, they heart fully doing it, it just a small amount of money compare to the blessing of  God given to you everyday, you wake up everyday, still alive, that is the blessing you can't pay.

I'm proud i become Church of Christ member. Salute one another with an holy kiss. The Churches of Christ salute you. (Rom 16:16)

What ever happen I'll be a Iglesia Ni Cristo.

Kahanga-hanga

Kahanga hanga talaga ang Bahay Sambahan o Kapilya ng Iglesia Ni Cristo.

Maliit pa akong bata ay hinahangaan ko na ang mga Sambahan o Kapilya ng Iglesia Ni Cristo, inasam ko rin dati na makapasok sa loob pero di pala ganun kadali yun, gusto ko lang naman makapasok at makita ang loob, maganda sa labas malamang maganda din sa loob, pero takot ako kasi nung mga panahong yun iba ang tingin na tao sa Iglesia Ni Cristo, tingin na dahil sa mga nababalitaan ko na ang mga Iglesia Ni Cristo ay di madaling lapitan, dahil pormal na pormal pag sumamba, matatapang at matataas, kaya dati pag may nakilala akong Iglesia iniiwasan ko na agad,

Mali pala ang nailagay sa isip ko nung bata ako tungkol sa Iglesia dahil nga bata tanggap nalang ng tanggap kung anu sabihin ng matatanda, saradong katoliko pa naman ang mga magulang ko,

Hanggang sa ako ay lumaki taglay ko pa din ang paghanga sa mga kapilya ng Iglesia, Kapilya - ito talaga ang tawag sa mga Bahay Sambahan ng Iglesia Ni Cristo.

Kahit iba pa ang relihiyon ko dati, tuwing may madadaanan akong Kapilya napapatigil talaga ako, sabi ko magaling talaga ang Iglesia inaalagaan at pinapaganda ang kanilang Bahay Sambahan o Kapilya, kung mahigpit man sila sa pagbibigay o abuloyan ay sulit naman dahil sa ganda ng kanilang simbahan,

Dati kasi sabi ng iba mahigpit daw sa pagbibigay o abuluyan ang Iglesya dapat daw 10 percent talaga ng kita ang ibibigay mo, tatanggalin ka daw pag dika nakabigay, sabagay tama lang naman ang 10 percent kasi yun naman talaga ang nasa bibliya at kung tutousin sulit naman sa ganda at laki ng simbahan ng Iglesia pero yung tatanggalin ka daw mali yun di ka tatanggalin.

Ngayon nandito nako lalo akong humanga sa Kapilya ng Iglesia, maganda talaga pati ang loob. Hindi ito para sa tao kundi para sa Diyos dapat lang alayan ng napakagandang sambahan o kapilya.

Ang sistema ng pagsamba at ang mga sumasamba nasa maayos, maayos na kasuotan minsan nga ang pinakamaganda pang damit ang isinusuot, tama lang naman dakila ang Diyos na sinasamba natin, kataas~taasang Diyos nakakahiya kung haharap tayo sa kanya ng di maayos,

Dapat presentable kahanga hanga ang Ama kaya dapat maging kahanga hanga din ang mga alay at pagsamba sa kanya. Maayos na pagsamba at maayos na bahay sambahan para sa ating Ama.

Mahiwagang Pagtawag

Mahiwaga talaga ang pagtawag satin ng Ama sa kanyang Iglesia, minsan napakabigat ng kapalit, ang pamilya mo, ang buhay mo, ang sarili mo, halos di mo makaya, minsan may nangyayari na yun pala ang dahilan kung bakit ka tinawag malalaman mo nalang pag nasa loob kana ng Iglesia,

Hindi tayo ang lumapit sa Kanya, ang Ama ang tumawag sa atin upang maging kanyang bayan, napakabuti talaga ng Ama, walang kasing buti. Kapalit man nito ay dati mong buhay sa labas na puno ng karangyaan at kalayawan na nagpapasaya sa sanlibutan. ang hirap diba? pero may pangako ang Diyos, Sya pa ang nangako, grabe pagmamahal ng Ama, ikaw na tinawag, ikaw pa ang pangangakuan, aalalayan ka ng Panginoon sabi Nya. (1cor 1:8)  kalakasan, katatagan at kaaliwan ang ipagkakaloob Nya,


Mahirap ang mga pagsubok pero di ka Nya pababayaan hanggang malampasan mo ang mga pagsubok kahit sa isip mo gusto mo nang umuron dahil sa persekyusyon, bibigyan ka Niya ng tapang at di ka pababayaan " Sabi Nya, magpaka~tapang kayo, lakasan ninyo ang inyong loob, huwag kayong matakot sa kanila pagkat sasamahan kayo ni Yahweh hindi Nya kayo pababayaan (deu 31:6) at lubus na kaligayahan sa piling ng Ama, ang iyong matatamo


Paminsan minsan mararamdaman mo ang sakit at hirap dahil may naiwan ka sa labas ng Iglesia at di mo sila nakasama, pero may pag~asa na balang araw makakasama mo din sila.

Puno ng pagsubok ang Iglesia pero. may kagalakan sa gitna man ng pagsubok (James 1:2-4) punung puno ng pag~asa, yan ang nagpapatatag sa mga Iglesia Ni Cristo, Pag~asa at Pananampalataya. Pag~asa na marating ang Bayang Banal at doon manahan kasama ng Ama at ng Panginoong Jesus Cristo.

Awareness and Prevention

Walking alone in the street is not safe now, not like in the old times, if you left your things, it will return to you, but now it will not return to you anymore, unless its got by a Goodman.

Good person are very few now, because of hard life other turn to bad work just to have a money, can't blame them, they have the reason, what we do is to take extra precaution from them,

Holdaper- this is a person who point a gun or deadly weapon to you to get your things, If you encounter a them just give what they want, then if  they're gone away go to the police immediately, for the police to take action, don't try to fight the Holdaper they are desperate to harm you, To avoid them don't walk without companion, if you‘re alone look the way with many people's walking, or walk in the main street, they attack the place were there is no to much people and in a hide places, 

Be alert specially at night and you are alone, read and feel your surrounding. if you feel danger leave the place immediately, but if you are an expert,  expert in hand to hand combat and you know what to do, do it right away neutralize your opponent and surrender him to the police. that is called citizen arrest under Rules of Court in the Phil. rules 113 sec.6


Snatcher- the one taking thing by grabbing in a second, then runaway, snatch your bag or watch. that is snatcher, don't try to pursue them by yourself they have a secret companion watching you, if you move they will take immediate action against you. to be not their victim, hold your bag show that your bag can't be taken easily, always in front of you, don't wear like gold earring, necklace and other things that attract to them, if you are walking and riding in public transport.


Look the face of the people approaching or coming in, the hand and the waistline, so if you see something unusual in his move or in his body, take precaution, move your eyes don't focus on one site, so you will see what happening around you. sometime we walk like we are not in our self, we didn't notice who passing by on us, this attitude is a prey for a badman because you are not aware of your surrounding they can easily come and get your belonging.


In the vehicle, if you are riding in the public transportation vehicle like bus or jeep, don't sleep while traveling if it cannot be avoided secure you things, be aware who beside you, sometime they use their jacket or big bag to hide their hand, so no one can notice of what they are doing.


One time, i was in public transport, (jeep)  the one sit beside me and the other one sit in front of me, in my side he set his big bag in his lap, big as almost covered the part between us, the other one in front of me was getting my attention, until i notice something, i touch my pocket were my cellphone is their, i was shock it is gone, hopefully their is a string attached in my cellphone that is connected to my belt, when i hold it and fulled i found it in the lap of the one beside me, what i do, i get it and go down immediately from vehicle, then i report them to the authority i found patrolling in the street.


As I say they use big bag to covered his hand to get my things. you should read the people around you. don't fight they are many they didn't move in a single one, they have look out and back up, best thing report to the authority.


In private vehicle, if you are driving a car, don't mind if a man told you that your tire is plat, or he do something to get your attention. don't open your window or your door that their Modus perandi, if you open your window they have a chance already to get your things and runaway. they might grab your earring necklace or bag from window, mostly the one riding in motorcycle, always lock you door.


Mostly the lawless element are train they practice before they do their work, they study the place of their Target were there is no authority of police, they plan everything including the duration of operation, quickness and smoothness,  they patience in waiting in their prey, they are desperate to harm their victim, their job is hard and dangerous but in one time work they got big money.


There is many gadget now that you can use to caught them but as a civilian you have to be careful if they notice you, you will become a story who shot by lawless men. for those who have extra talent well they know what to do.


Today is very dangerous even you are in your house your are not safe anymore, even in the broad daylight they attack, we can't blame the authority they have many job to do, lets just help them if we can do to protect our self, let just do it.


Prayer is the best shield, it happen to me many time when i notice that their a bad men i say a little prayer and God answer me, either they go down or they didn't move until i go down, that the best thing to do ask God to spare you from bad element. "yes said Jesus if you yourself can! Everything is possible for the person who has faith." (Mark 9:23)


Before you leave your house, pray first. God always take care to those who ask His help. sometime we do it on our own way with out consulting God, the reason why we fall. maybe because we believe that we can do it, what we didn't know they are more powerful than us, do not underestimate your enemy if you didn't know them.  


When you pray for help you also save others by faith and prayer. We need God guidance,  (Eph. 6:18)  do all this in prayer, asking for Gods help, pray on every occasion as the spirit leads, for this reason keep alert and never give up; pray always for all Gods people. (2thes 3:3) but the Lord is faithful and he will strengthen you and keep you safe from the evil one.