Being a father is a great responsibility, like a group,
father is a leader or head of the family.
I have been raised in the family where the father is like a
king, what he want what he get, if you didn't follow him, surely you have a punishment.
In just one look on us, we know already what he means, we have a great fear in
our father, even my mother, because he always punishes us every time we got
wrong even a simple sin, he didn't let it past.
He didn't do a house
work, his reason, he is the one who work for our needs, why he work at home,
let it, to the mother and children, he spend his rest time watching TV.
Sometimes he is right, but it has a wrong impression for a child, that why when
I saw a father who cook and washing a dress, I been proud of them, I though, I
wish my father is like them too.
It’s not compulsory for the father to do a house work, they
are right they are the one who work for a living, we cannot force our father to
do home work, but if the father
want their children be more proud
of them, other than working for family
needs, they can do it by helping their wife and children to do the work at home, in
the bible "Children's children [are] the crown of old men; and the glory
of children [are] their fathers." (Prov. 17:6) the glory of children are
their father.
Some father especially the new one don’t know how to do this,
well, here are some idea how we can help our wife and children at home.
- · Take an active leadership role in family worship, this is the most important, in this way your child will be proud of you, we can’t deny this is the most thing that father didn't do because of busyness in working, sometime they let it to the mother to lead. In the bible it should be the father who will lead the worship service if you do this they will greatly rejoice. "The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise [child] shall have joy of him."(Prov. 23:24) lead them to the right way of righteousness.
- · Help with homework, this is what I’m looking to my father, In the bible, “Like as a father pitieth [his] children, [so] the LORD pitieth them that fear him”. (Ps 103:13) takes pity on your wife and children, help them around the house, if something that your wife didn't finish, why don’t you finish it for her. The families that work together stay forever.
- · Help the children with their school work, when I was in grade school, when I ask my father to help me with my school work he always told me to go with my mother, children has a high regards than their mother in term of education because the children expect too much to their father. And it’s also wonderful to see that father and child working together.
- · Spend some prime time alone with your wife, our children make us an idol or a example especially in building family, if they saw that we love our wife so much, they will dream to have a husband like us or a wife like their mother, so, we must show them an example, let’s show them that we love our wife by taking an extra care for their mother, have time alone with your wife, like a date or dinner for two of you only, at least one at a time a week. When husband and wife are secured in each other love both can do a better parenting.
- · Curtail excessive spending on dads toys, sometimes father are tend to depend their own expenses while if the kids or wife want to buy something, he will say we can’t afford it or we have no budget for that, especially if he is the only one who work. it’s not fair for the kids and wife, they will thought if you want to buy, you will buy, if the kids or wife want to buy, you have no budget, let have a budget, set an amount for personal spending for each family, not for you only.
- · Take an active and supportive role in disciplining the children, support your wife on disciplining your child, I remember when we didn't follow our mother she always told us wait for your father and you will see, they are supporting each other in disciplining us, when parents don’t cooperate on disciplining, children learn how to play one parents against the other, don’t let it happen, support each other.
- · Minimize criticism and maximize encouragement of family members, too much criticism is not good, much better if we avoid criticizing each other. praise and thanks our family for what they do that please you, they will do more that please you, learn what prophet Elijah says "And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse".(Mal. 4:6)
Nobody want to be a bad father, all of us want to be the
best father, we can do it if we follow God example, let’s show a good things to
our family, for sure they will proud of us.
Happy Father’s day to all!!!
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