Naturally we doesn’t like if someone disagree with us, or criticized us So how we can stand hearing criticism, face criticism or maybe even benefit from it? First thing is, we must learn to accept it, what is criticism? it is an act of criticizing, a judgment passed or expressed, an observation or detailed examination and review. We can’t control what other people will say to us, whether they’ll approve us or form opinions and share them. But we can control how we internalize it, respond to it, and learn from it, release it then move on. It will lead us to unnecessary suffering if we respond to it without careful consideration. maybe someone is just want to suggest you a correct matter, or maybe just telling you what is his opinion, so, we should not got easily mad.
What we should do and benefits from criticism
1. Calm down so you can focus on what the person is really trying to tell you. Listen first to his words.
2. Hearing useful criticism or hard advice Ask questions only to understand, most criticism are based, at least in part, on some truths. It may appear negative. But, through this we have the opportunity to learn and improve ourselves their suggestions.
3. We need to separate the criticism from the style of criticism. Like confrontational manner. Even if people speak in a tone of anger, we should try to detach their emotion from the useful suggestions which lie underneath.
4. Sometimes we only value praise if people speak kind words and we feel angry when other speak criticism, if we only accept a kind words we can’t progress, If we want to improve and develop we should accept constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.
5. Don’t respond immediately it is best to wait a little before responding. If we respond with feelings of anger or injured pride we will soon regret it. If we wait patiently it can enable us to reflect in a calmer way.
6. Keep on Smiling, even a false smile, can help us to relax more. It creates a positive vibration and smooths the situation. It will help psychologically and motivate the other person to come and approach you moderately
A benefits from criticism.
1. Criticism encourages humility. It’s not easy to take an honest look at yourself and your weaknesses, but you can only grow if you look their criticism
2. Critique gives you a tool to more effectively create the tomorrow you visualize. It opens you up to new perspectives and new ideas you may not have considered.
3. You have the chance to practice forgiveness when you come up against harsh critics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that we unintentionally misdirect from time to time.
4. Criticism gives you the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isn’t always easy when you’re feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with your critic.
5. Interpreting someone else’s feedback is an opportunity for rational thinking, sometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.
6. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes, when criticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The people around us generally want to help us, not judge us.
7. Criticism gives you the chance to teach people how to treat you. If someone delivers it poorly, you can take this opportunity to tell them, “I think you make some valid points, but I would receive them better if you didn’t raise your voice.”
8. If you improve how you operate after receiving criticism, this will save time and energy in the future. When you think about from that perspective, criticism as a time saver, it’s hard not to appreciate it!
Criticism is a part of our life, even our family criticized us, we can handle it if we response positively to the criticism.
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