Lazarus and the Rich Man

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Health: How to Prevent Varicose.

Varicose veins are veins that have become enlarge and tortuous, this were your blood clog or stock in the veins, increases the veins pressure in the lower part of the body and become visible at your leg.

I remember my mother who has a varicose veins it almost over her leg like a intestine of chicken, when we are in grade school, we walk for almost two kilometer from school to our home, there is a faucet in the side of the street that we always passed by, in there, we always stop and washed our feet before we proceed to our home and my mother knows it, she said, if we always do that, our leg will have a varicose veins. sometime, It reminds me, when I wash my leg without having resting first. maybe my mother telling the truth, cause, I have a little of it or maybe because she has also have it.


The term commonly refers to the veins on the leg, although varicose veins can occur elsewhere. Veins have leaflet valves to prevent blood from flowing backwards (retrograde flow or reflux). Leg muscles pump the veins to return blood to the heart (the calf muscle pump mechanism), against the effects of gravity.

When veins become varicose, the leaflets of the valves no longer meet properly, and the valves do not work (valvular incompetence). This allows blood to flow backwards and they enlarge even more. Varicose veins are most common in the superficial veins of the legs, which are subject to high pressure when standing. Besides being a cosmetic problem, varicose veins can be painful, especially when standing. Severe long-standing varicose veins can lead to leg swelling, venous eczema, skin thickening (lipodermatosclerosis) and ulceration. Life-threatening complications are uncommon.  (Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Varicose_veins)

During periods of sitting, standing and walking, the blood in our leg veins must flow uphill to the heart this is easy when we have a healthy veins and aids from our calf muscles which act as miniature pumping stations, with diseased veins however it can lead to venous congestion in our legs, this will cause varicose veins, swollen legs, leg ulcer and blood clot.

There is a lot of treatment what i told here is prevention for those who are no enough money for treatment, the best way is prevention.

As a prevention,  sitting and standing for a long time is not good, if it cant be avoided move your feet up and down frequently with a pumping station. or walk briskly when you can, more movement to keep your leg muscle in motion, at home lie down with leg raised.

During long trip move your leg often, take the load of your leg veins by frequently elevating your leg.
during the day or in the work, prop your feet up on a stool or to your desk, at night place cushions under the mattress to elevate it approximately six inches, by this tip we can prevent to have a varicose veins.

Self Care, this includes losing weight, exercising, not buying clothes which are too tight, keeping legs elevated.

Compression stockings should be worn as the first method of managing the problem of varicose veins before going on to any further treatments. These are stockings made to be worn from morning to night and they squeeze steadily the legs, helping the leg muscles as well as the veins move blood much more proficiently.

This tips are common but it can help to those who doesn't want to have a varicose veins, sometime it embarrassing if you wore a short pant or skirt. take care our self, be self conscious.

Tips on Driving, How to drive carefully.

My Driving experience, safe driving learned from experience

Driving is a everyday challenged, we don't know what will happen, we are not alone in the street, our character is not the same, there a fast driving driver and slow driving driver, we drive carefully but the other is not, they are the one who put you in accident.

I been driving for almost 23 years, i was studded in one well-known driving school for just 5 hours, one hour everyday, in 5 days at my spare time, my father know how to drive and i can say he is a good driver, i ask him to teach me to drive but he refused, when i start to work i studded to drive.

I remember when i was a little boy i always ask myself every time i saw a car entered in a narrow way of tall plaza, i wondered how the driver get in that without hitting the side of the cashier's boot, one time, i tried it using a bike, i take a bike in the rice field where there is a very narrow way, i found out that it's because of calculation and anticipation why the driver do that.

When i was new in driving i was very happy, mostly when we are in the long travel, i run for 120 kph, it good feeling, like you are flying, I'm happy i learned to drive, but when the first accident happened to me, i got nervous, I'm just new, so, i don't know what to do, i thought the police will bring me to jail, and pay the damages. but i learned there is a insurance the will pay the damages, so every time i get involve in car accident, i always say let the insurance handle it. but of course I'm very careful now in driving.

We cannot avoid the accident, but we can prevented it, like I say, we are not alone in the street, our way of thinking is not the same with other driver, there are reckless driver, sometime they cut you or pinned you in the side, if you encounter this driver just let him go, he might out of his mind, some driver bring there problem in driving, this kind of people cause you an accident .

Good driver is a driver that knowledgeable, knowledge come from experience, ability to recognized hazard and how to protect from these hazard, a Driver knows safe driving, not like the who has no experience, they got nervous when they get involve in accident, they don't know what to do. like me at first.

Safe driving means driving carefully, carefully get in and get out in any traffic situation, always in the right lane and many other to be consider in safe driving, obey all traffic rules and regulation, ignorance of the law is not valid if you caught in accident.

A slight error in driving could be cause of accident, we must need more knowledge and skill, techniques in good and safe driving, we must always have a presence of mind to avoid collision, we always think distance, alertness, patience, right speed and courteous to other will prevent us from trouble.          

A proper attitude is important in safe driving. Today, there is already speed limit in every street of every city, if you over speeding, the authority will get you.

Don't Drive too close ahead of you, if the car ahead of you stop suddenly, you have no chance to maneuver or get out and if you're not lucky you might also hit his back,

Maintained a one car distances, do not over confidence that you can stop at a right time, what if your break stock,

You must know your breaking distance, so that you can stop smoothly not like a horse.

Overtaking, think twice before you overtake and must be at the right place and speed,

It happen to me one time, i overtake in the left innermost lane, but the car in my right sound to be racing with me, he didn't give me a way, here comes a truck! a head-on collision! Thanks God, the truck has passed in the pavement to give a way for me, i was terrified that will be my last if the truck hit me, it's wrong timing and speed and also over confidence, i underestimated the speed of the car.

Have a peace of mind while driving your emotion can affect in you driving it cause lose of alertness,

Have a good health and condition, proper sleep, it hard to drive when you are sleepy it cause accident when got sleep while driving, don't drive drunk and don't use cellphone.

There is two kind of driving defensive driving and offensive driving.

Defensive driving is a kind of driving without having accident means safety driving  observance of all traffic rules and regulation, always in the right ways and have courtesy to other to prevent accident, alert in driving error, decide, adjust immediately in error, so, that the accident will be prevented.

Offensive driving simply as open to the accident and trouble, its mostly applied to police and security escort, they  follow the rule and regulation, but in some condition they disregard it, they priorities the time and safety of their VIP, they are always in a hurry, no speed limit, overtaking if there is a chance, They always found trouble with other driver. Its not applicable if you care for your car as well as your life. they do this for the VIP to reach immediately the place where he is going, longer exposure in the street more time risking his life from bad element, they applied both defensive and offensive driving.

In driving you have to be prepared, its natural to get involve in accident but if you know what to do, you can prevent it or lessen the damage.

Following traffic rules and regulation is a best prevention from driving trouble.

Parenting: How to cope Sibling Rivalry.

Sibling means one of two or more individual having one common parents. in short brother and sister.




Rivalry means the act of rivaling, state of being rival, competition. its a battle, conflict, confrontation any kind of competition between the two person in one thing or topic.
Sibling Rivalry, a competition of brother, sister or brother, to brother or sister to sister.

The reason of sibling rivalry is Gender... Something that they both like even it's not appropriate to their gender, example, a doll its not for a boy but his brother like it so much, it comes that the boy grab it and run away from her sister, there is a side effect of that if the parent let it happen that their son play a doll,, maybe someday he become a gay. if that happen they become rival in girls things. so, we parents must give what is appropriate to their Gender. while they are young with a proper explanation. if they are both girls or both boy give the a fair things, fair love and attention.

Age gap... also cause by sibling rivalry, sometime the older who been spoiled for the time that he has no brother or sister yet, he got all the attention of his parents because he is just the only one, but when they become two, there is the start of rivalry and jealousy as well, there a time that the older hurt the younger because of jealousy. the older thought he has already a rival to their parents attention. in that lets give then fair attention and explain to the older why his younger sibling need more attention, explain to the older his role as a older brother or sister.

Another is Temperament.... characteristic, mood of emotion, the one is sensitive or silent type, the other one is noisy or disorderly if they live in one room always in fight because of temperament. teach then to understand each other they are sibling they must understand the character of each other.

Adult Sibling Rivalry....when they old they still bring the rivalry even they have their owned family, one reason when their parents give something to the one but the other one has nothing, sometimes their parents favorite the children of the one but the other one is not, in the bible, 

"In the course of time Cain brought to the Lord an offering of the fruit of the ground, and Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat portions. And the Lord had regard for Abel and his offering, but for Cain and his offering he had no regard. So Cain was very angry, and his face fell. The Lord said to Cain, “Why are you angry, and why has your face fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it.” Cain spoke to Abel his brother. And when they were in the field, Cain rose up against his brother Abel and killed him" (Genesis 4:3-8)

What happen to Cain and Abel can be happen to any sibling, we must guide our children of what they doing, we should be aware of the feeling of our child to their brother or sister if we seen them, sound like they have a conflict, we must take an action before it too late.

Favoritism....can cause also of Sibling rivalry, in the bible "Isaac who had a taste for wild game love Esau but Rebekah loved Jacob" (Genesis 25:28) because of this our children become clever, no respect for each other because of us parents like when Jacob steal the blessing of his father that must be for Esau,

"When Isaac was old and his eyes were dim so that he could not see, he called Esau his older son and said to him, “My son”; and he answered, “Here I am.” He said, “Behold, I am old; I do not know the day of my death. Now then, take your weapons, your quiver and your bow, and go out to the field and hunt game for me, and prepare for me delicious food, such as I love, and bring it to me so that I may eat, that my soul may bless you before I die.” 

Now Rebekah was listening when Isaac spoke to his son Esau. So when Esau went to the field to hunt for game and bring it, Rebekah said to her son Jacob, “I heard your father speak to your brother Esau, ‘Bring me game and prepare for me delicious food, that I may eat it and bless you before the Lord before I die. ’ 

Now therefore, my son, obey my voice as I command you. Go to the flock and bring me two good young goats, so that I may prepare from them delicious food for your father, such as he loves. And you shall bring it to your father to eat, so that he may bless you before he dies.” But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, “Behold, my brother Esau is a hairy man, and I am a smooth man. Perhaps my father will feel me, and I shall seem to be mocking him and bring a curse upon myself and not a blessing.” His mother said to him, “Let your curse be on me, my son; only obey my voice, and go, bring them to me.” So he went and took them and brought them to his mother, and his mother prepared delicious food, such as his father loved. 

Then Rebekah took the best garments of Esau her older son, which were with her in the house, and put them on Jacob her younger son. And the skins of the young goats she put on his hands and on the smooth part of his neck. And she put the delicious food and the bread, which she had prepared, into the hand of her son Jacob. 

So he went in to his father and said, “My father.” And he said, “Here I am. Who are you, my son?” Jacob said to his father, “I am Esau your firstborn. I have done as you told me; now sit up and eat of my game, that your soul may bless me.” But Isaac said to his son, “How is it that you have found it so quickly, my son?” He answered, “Because the Lord your God granted me success.” 

"Then Isaac said to Jacob, “Please come near, that I may feel you, my son, to know whether you are really my son Esau or not.” So Jacob went near to Isaac his father, who felt him and said, “The voice is Jacob's voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau.” And he did not recognize him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau's hands. So he blessed him. He said, “Are you really my son Esau?” He answered, “I am.” Then he said, “Bring it near to me, that I may eat of my son's game and bless you.” So he brought it near to him, and he ate; and he brought him wine, and he drank." (Gen 27:1-43)

For that reason Esau angry with Jacob, because of favoritism from their parents. or because we are favorite by our parent be become strong to fight our brother because we have a dependent, it should not be like this for the parent, we should refrain from favoritism, remember they are both our children.

We, parents are here to guide them to bring the to the love of God who is our real parents, we are just an instrument by God to take care his creation, we should not bring our children to destruction cause by our wrong manners of how we guide them in this world. they come here without knowledge or anything but life coming from God, we are the one who make them to become a man from infant until they become old, if they become bad we are the one who will be blamed.

We must have an Open communication...parents should be first to listen to the child, show them that we love them fairly how many they are. don't show favoritism so they didn't feel they are different from each other. they wont say, "my parents love my younger brother than me" always tell them to love each other, its not good if they fight each other, no one will help each other but they are only. build a strong relationship of sibling that even they have there own family they must still love each other, its natural that in our child there is a what we call black sheep and there's also a good one, the important is show them that we are fair to all of them even one become bad he still their brother or sister.

Teach them that Sibling are forever... whatever happen they are sibling like Joseph even he trowed and sell by his brother to the stranger, Joseph didn't keep a hatred to his brother, in time of trouble and his brothers suffered, Joseph help them and save them from famine, Joseph has all the chance to take revenge but instead he cry and come to them to help.

"But Joseph said to them, “Do not fear, for am I in the place of God? As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today. So do not fear; I will provide for you and your little ones.” Thus he comforted them and spoke kindly to them. (ESV) (Gen 50:19-21) Joseph show that whatever happen they are sibling forever, they are family

The parents are the one who make the child of what they become. there's no sibling rivalry if we rise them in good and in proper way, let's rise them with fear in God. lead them in a good way. have a family get together especially in prayer time, have a family devotional prayer and going to church together to worship our God, its build a strong relationship in the family as well as strong relationship to the Father God.